Toleration is a Good Thing, Isn’t it?

Tolerance is a virtue. There are certain things that a person must be tolerant or broad-minded about. Politics, religion, cultural differences, and other issues of morality and civility are great examples.

However, some items shouldn’t be tolerated. You must learn to decide that you cannot spend all of your energy putting up with things that make it impossible for you to function at your peak levels.

Never Tolerate:

  1. Mediocrity: Mediocrity is ordinariness. Being average might be admirable at times, but to succeed in business and in life you must be above average.  Do not allow yourself to settle for the norm. Growing means dropping old habits, and expanding your comfort zone. Be passionate, learn everything you can, try new activities, and new ways to do old things. Never settle for “good enough”, strive for the best you can do.
  2. Dishonesty: Dishonesty involves much more than being truthful, although truthfulness is essential. Taking advantage of anyone or using someone to advance at any cost is dishonest. Inner peace cannot live alongside dishonesty. You must be able to like the face you see staring back at you in the mirror.
  3. Inactivity or Laziness: Learning and education without action does not mean that you are growing. Sitting back and thinking about what should be done will accomplish nothing without action. A definition of laziness is stopping to rest before you are tired. The best place to start is exactly where you are right now. The time to start is also now.
  4. Self-Negativity: There is no place in your life to allow negativity to have room to grow. Your mind is sacred. Open the windows let light in. Positivity as well as negativity is a choice. Always choose to be positive. Negative emotions drain you and put yourself in your own way.
  5. Negativity of Others: You must look out for yourself and control your environment to the greatest degree possible. Although you cannot control the thoughts or actions of others, you can control what you allow and what you believe. If you allow others to poison you and prevent you from reaching your goals, you are engaging in self-sabotage.
  6. Disorganization: Clear the clutter. Practice basic organizational skills. Get up a few minutes early, plan your day, and proceed accordingly. Disorganization steals your peace of mind, and puts you a step behind.
  7. Unfinished Projects:   You are setting yourself up for frustration and failure if you routinely start projects but stop before they are finished. Finish every job that you start. A list of started, but incomplete projects is a downer and prevents you from completing new jobs. This is a self-sabotaging attack on your productivity.
  8. The Wrong Career or Work Environment:  Don’t settle for a career that you are not passionate about. Do not accept mediocrity. If you are working in a field in which you know is not the right place for you, take whatever action you need to take to work in the field that is right for you.
  9. Regret:  Everyone makes mistakes or errors in judgment. Learn from events that didn’t end the way you wanted them to. Once they are over, let them go and don’t allow them to rule your future. Let the past go, cling to your successes, and realize that many failures are really successes in disguise.
  10. Unhealthy relationships: Take care in choosing your friends. Remember that the company you keep defines you. Spend your time with people who support you and embrace the same set of values you live. Having many friends may seem desirable but having fewer, well-chosen friends will serve you better.

4 Easy Ways to Control Your Anger

Is controlling your anger possible? For many people, loss of control results in yelling, shouting, and other forms of acting out. They may explain their anger by stating they have a short fuse, or a hot temper. Does this describe you or someone you know?

Is Controlling Your Anger Worth the Effort?

Many men and slightly fewer women have anger management problems. Verbal abuse, physical abuse, shouting, yelling, and throwing things are common behaviors of angry people. A person who is unable to control their anger may have difficulty with maintaining personal relationships,good rapport with co-workers, and staying out of legal problems. People who can control their tempers, and keep their anger levels low often are very successful both in their personal and business lives.

Easy Ways to Control your Anger

Although anger management is not easy for many people, the methods needed are easily learned. With practice these methods can become the basis of self management and anger control.

Exercise

Walking is a great anger management technique. Relaxation and calming down is the natural result of  ”taking a walk”. Walking and other forms of exercise are very effect anger management tools.

Controlled Breathing

Along with anger breathing tends to become shallow. Deep breathing from your diaphragm increases oxygen flow and also helps you to maintain self control. Emotions can be calmed through the use of deep breathing exercises.

Self Talk

All of us have constant chatter going on in our minds. Being aware of your own self talk is the first step on controlling the thoughts that run amok in our heads. Purposely focus and visualize positive outcome and events. Think about them often and bring them forward when anger or other strong emotions overwhelm you.

Humor

Humor is a fantastic antidote for anger. Laughter releases tensions and infuses your body with oxygen and positive endorphin’s. It is extremely difficult to be angry while you are laughing!

Summary

Controlling your anger is very possible, and worth the effort. Choose the technique or techniques that work best for you. Four choices are: exercise, controlled breathing, self talk and humor.

Choose How You Manage Your Life

Every day each person on earth makes hundreds of choices. We are here because of decisions we have made up to this point. Many of our choices fall in the default mode. These are choices that we are unaware of even making. They can also be choices made because we felt we had no other choice.

Some of the most common default choices we make are our daily living choices. We choose our thoughts and choose to be happy and content, or angry.

The alarm clock rings and we get out of bed and get ready for work.Our choices are: to ignore it, to shut it off and stay in bed, or to shut it off and get up. Which ever action is a choice.

Our next choice may seem a non-choice. When someone first wakes up there is usually a great need to relieve themselves. The choice is where we decide to do it. Almost everyone makes the hike to the bathroom and chooses to relieve themselves using the facilities, we made this choice, we could just let it happen in bed, or on the floor or wherever we are at the time of need.

The two choices I have talked about are default choices because we believe there is no other choice. We have to get up for work on time, otherwise we no longer have a job. That is true, but we still have choice in the matter. Keeping employment is the choice and getting up is the action to take. The second scenario the choice is so obvious that it seems as if it is no choice at all.

Some people choose not to make decisions and therefore let other people manage their lives for them. They may feel helpless at times, but they chose not to consciously make decisions and willingly give up their power

The decision to allow others to make choices for us leads to giving up control of our thoughts, and often leads to feelings of anger.

Some choices we make are choices to procrastinate. This evening, I had to stop writing to make supper for my family. The choice was simple because my family’s needs are a top priority. After supper, the choice was a little tougher. For various reasons I wanted to get out of the kitchen as quickly as possible. The meal ended and I wanted to relax in the living room. The choice I made was to stay in the kitchen and clean it up and leave it tidy. The weight of not doing this would ruin my evening, so the price I would pay for choosing to relax was greater than I wanted to pay. Additionally the job would have been harder later on, because the food on the dishes would be dried and it would have been even harder to get up and go back into the kitchen knowing it was a mess. Due to the choice I made to clean it up. I will get a good feeling walking into my kitchen finding everything neat and clean.

In conclusion choices are the way we manage our lives. We need careful thought about the decisions we make.

First Comes Luck Then Happiness and Success

 

Maybe happiness comes first, then luck and success, or is it success first then happiness and luck? It reminds Luckyme of the conundrum that comes first the chicken or the egg. It really doesn’t matter does it?

Success and happiness

Which came first the Chicken or the Egg?

Luck, happiness and success are interconnected, exactly which come first though I am not sure. However, I do know that that nasty four-letter word “work” really comes first!

Luck has many synonyms: big break, advantage, opportunity, happiness, success and victory, are a few. Well, it sounds like I am repeating myself doesn’t it. Luck, happiness and success are a well-tuned trio.

Although, I can’t say that it never happens, I will say that it seldom happens that luck comes knocking on your door begging you to join it. No, usually luck comes your way as a direct result of your carefully laid groundwork.

So which type of activities result in luck? Well, many of the things you do each day result in cultivating luck. Would you like a list?

Luck, Happiness, and Success Creating Activities

Smiling

Happiness

Smile!

Helping other people solve their problems

Networking

Providing great content

Going the extra mileExtra Mile

Networking

Being positive

Improving your skillset

Networking

Asking for help when it is needed

Offering a helping hand oftenHelping Hand

Networking

 

I think you have gotten the idea. We do not live in a vacuum. We need other people to succeed. It doesn’t matter if the other person is one that we know on a personal basis, or as a web presence. One person can do great things; two or more people working together can be spectacular.

Care must be taken when networking, just like forming any other friendships. You are known by the people you hang around with, whether on the street corner or in cyberspace.

Choose gurus carefully. Study their methods and reputation. If you want your work known as a person with integrity, don’t have mostly black hat business partners. Ensure that the people you mingle with are from a broad and diverse background.

Choose your words carefully. Think about the impact they may have on another person. Use your words and your action to build people up. The web reaches around the globe.

Humor is an integral part of human behavior and is what makes life enjoyable. Nonetheless, use humor carefully; what may seem hilarious to you may be offensive to another.

The more people that you help to achieve their goals, the faster you will achieve your own. If you feel the road to success requires stepping on your competition and making them look bad, it is likely that soon all you will be finding is bad luck, unhappiness, and failure.

The world of commerce, the way we make money, the way we conduct our businesses should always be ethical and above board. It takes hard work, dedication, and care to build a good, positive reputation. It takes only one careless word or action to crash.

One achieves luck, happiness, and success from goodwill, helpfulness, and positivity. Grow your business using good business practices always looking to see how you can give your customers more of what they need and your needs will be met with much to flow over.

 

 

 

 

Success Builds Success

Good Things Keep Happening

The positive energy we project when you have done well brings more positive energy and success to you.

Unfortunately most of our daily desires come from resistance or not wanting. What this means is that by focusing on what you don’t want; a traffic jam or slow moving check out line, or on what you lack IE: money.
You are putting out negative energy and reinforcing the belief that we either get what we don’t want or don’t get what we want.

This negative habit stops positivity cold, because the law of attraction is that we attract what we think about most.

That is why when thing go right we need to focus on them. In reality a lot more positive things happen on a daily basis than negative. We must focus on the positive things.

You may be saying-well, you don’t know how bad my life is..and I will respond that you don’t know how good your life is.

Daily Positive Events

Let me explain by giving you a list of positive things that you more than likely take for granted daily.
1. You woke up this morning.
2. You had clothes to put on
3. You had something to eat or drink
4. You have at least one person anywhere who cares about you.
5. You may have a job, or school to go to
6. You have a way to get to your job or school;driving, riding public transportation, car pool, your own 2 feet
7. You were not injured on your way to work
8. You have a roof over your head
9. You have a place to lay your head each night-no matter how humble
10. Someone probably smiled at you,
11. You may have some change in your pocket
12. You have a place to take a shower, and soap and/or shampoo.
13. You have a towel to dry off with
14. You have indoor plumbing in your home
15. You may have a television
16. You may have a Cell Phone
17. You may have someone to call with that Cell Phone
I think you have the idea by now, the list of all the positive things we each have is endless.

The BIG QUESTION!!! Do you CHOOSE to focus on not having exactly what you are hungry for at this moment (Negative) or the fact that you have some food to nourish your body (Positive)?

What a man thinkith so he is.

It is your choice to choose positive over negative and draw more and more good things into your life.
Remember it is YOUR engery

Success Meets Obstacles

Success is earned by overcoming obstacles.  It is only those of us who do not give in and throw up our hands in defeat who succeed.

Success Obstacle #1

Fear: This obstacle is almost always self-induced and mental in nature.  Zig Ziglar defines fear as False Evidence Appearing Real. To get around this obstacle you must remain focused on your goals. Don’t allow the distraction of worry to cause you to detour or cancel your plans.

Success Obstacle #2

Change: People fear change. Change is what success is all about. If we do not embrace change then we will stay exactly where are are. Our goals can only be met it we look change in the face and with open arms. The more we cling to our resent comfort zone the more we will maintain the status quo and not success. If we are being confronted with change, we know we are on the right path. Reward yourself by acknowledging your growth.

Success Obstacle #3

Responsibility: It is the normal and expected result of success to have more responsibility. Our goals almost always involve gaining more financial freedom, more leadership and more opportunities. Along with each of these accomplishments come more responsibility If we would view responsibility as the expected outcome and reach out to manage it with an open mind and meet the opportunities then we would realize we are in success mode. The more opportunities we have to do more the happier and more successful we are.

Success Obstacle #4

Other People: Humans are very strange when it comes to encouraging others on the road to success. The very people we expect in our corner are often the most contradictory. Families, as a whole look at other families successes with envy yet try to block the successes of their own family members. Our families often scoff at our dreams as being too lofty. We may receive lectures of how to keep our feet planted firmly on the ground and to keep on plugging one. To avoid this obstacle we must keep our focus and realize the the opposition is most likely fear along with envy. Acceptance and tolerance is needed but we must continue to follow our dreams and reach our goals.

Success Obstacle #5

No Guarantees: Life does not come with a guarantee of any type so why should we expect a guarantee that our goals will be all we want them to be? Life is full of uncertainties but in no way can we let the lack of a guarantee at success and happiness be a deterrence to our continuing climb.

The five obstacles presented are only a few of the most common that we encounter. Each obstacle first needs to be recognized for what it is and then gone around, over  or under as we move on to new obstacles and opportunities.

 

Memorization for Success

Tips for Learning Memorization Skills


Memorization skills are like any other skill, if allowed to lay dormant they get lost. Good memorization skills are the foundation to greater productivity in all areas of like. Your career, school and even socialization skills are better when you can easily and quickly retrieve information, names and facts.

Tips

Visualize it: Take a mental picture of the location of an item. This is especially helpful if you are a visual learner. Remembering words, concepts and math processes can be remembered with this method.

Vocalize it: Say the material you need to memorize out loud. This works especially well for auditory learners. Saying the information out loud reinforces learning because you are both saying it and hearing it. Vocalization along with visualization is an excellent memory tool.

Sing it: Putting the material to be memorized in the form of a simple ditty or favorite childhood song is an excellent memory enhancement. Singings activate our right brain which is very good at recognizing patterns. By singing you are activating more areas of the brain.

Use more than one of your senses:  If you visualize and vocalize the material you can also write or enter the information into your computer. The more detailed you are in filling in the picture the more successful you will be in remembering it. Also the more senses you engage the better the result will be.

Create a relationship: If you can relate something that you are trying to remember with something that you already know, it is very helpful. Association with familiar things is another excellent memorization tool.

Chew gum: Yes chewing gum can improve your memory. Of course it is not the gum itself that helps you memorize but it is the action of moving your jaw in a continuous manner increases your heart rate. An increased heart rate improves oxygen delivery to your brain which enhances cognitive skill, which of course includes memory.

Get adequate sleep: Neural connections in your brain are altered as you sleep. Memory skills can be lost if you are sleep deprived.

Physical Exercise: Physical exercise is important for keeping the body healthy, but it also may reduce the chances of you developing dementia or other memory disorders. Physical exercise has a positive effect on the heart. There is a connection between the health of the heart and the brain.


Mental Stimulation: People who remain mentally stimulated have a lower chance of developing memory disorders such as Alzheimer’s. Mental stimulation happens in many different forms. Social interaction improves memory as well as raising a person’s self-esteem. It is as important to keep your body in good shape as it is to keep your brain in good shape.


Keeping your memory sharp and in good shape results in a more active and productive life. It also makes life more interesting and fun.



External Focus and Success

 

 

Each of us has two types of focus. The first and most common is internal focus, where the focus is of course internal; how do I feel today? How does this affect my bottom line? How much work will this cause me? All of these questions show that the focus in inside our own little world.

External Focus is focus that is centered on the physical world around you.  Most aspiring artists draw what they see around them. Journalists’ write about events that occur around them.  Both of these are examples of external focus.

 

John F Kennedy summed up the contrast of internal focus to external focus by his famous statement. “Ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country. “

 

Any time that your focus is on the give, what you can give or do for others you are externally focused. When you are focused on what’s in it for you, you are then focusing internally.

 

During the research for this article, I came upon information that I found extremely helpful. Parkinson’s disease afflicts many, many people.  One of he primary risks that Parkinson’s disease carries is that patients are at great risk for posture and balance impairments. These conditions often lead to falls, which may result in head injuries and fractures.

This is great balance pad that I found on Active Forever-Medical Equipment Web site. I personally recommend this product

 

 

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This has carried over to healthy adults who are able to learn and perform motor skills more efficiently when instructed to adopt an external focus. This same concept has shown to be effective to people after suffering a stroke.

 

This concept when applied to golf was also very effective. Golfers who focus on their arm swing (internal focus) and golfers who focus on the club swing (external focus); the external-focus golfers out performed the internal-focus golfers.

 

It is of course the same in business world, businesses that provide more give for the dollar, allowing the customer to leave with the feeling that they got more for their money are much more successful. A business that allows a customer to feel that they paid for more than they got, or feeling that they were “taken” will not stay in business long.

Does Stress Deserve It’s Bad Reputation?

Stress has a bad reputation even though it is one of our bodies’ best defense systems. When stress kicks in our bodies release adrenaline and other chemicals, which raise our blood pressure and increase our strength. Our speed and reaction times are enhanced. This positive effect of stress can work in our favor for a short time, especially when our life, or the life of a loved one, or even our careers is on the line.

Positive stress or Eustress keeps you stimulated, increases awareness, may improve your vision and even enables you to make good decisions. If you view a problem as a challenge or opportunity you are harnessing the benefits of Eustress.

Look for examples of positive stress in your life and career. Especially look for Eustress in the areas of creativity, imagination, desires, daydreams and new experiences. These may be part of the solution to managing your stress.

 

 

 

Ways to Use the Positive Effects of Stress:

1. Make a list of things that bring you inner peace. Most often they are intangible and give you hope and joy. Use this list to draw on during periods of distress.
2. Train yourself to see the humor in stressful situation. Your laughter produces positive emotions and tend to create a sense of well-being. Find ways to indulge in deep laughter, the more often and longer that you laugh well the better you will feel.

3. Keeping a positive attitude allows you to remain optimistic at the same time as accepting situations that you don’t like or are out of your control. Remember the situation doesn’t change, but attitude and resilience does.
4. Maintaining friendships and creating new ones help you to develop healthy relationships with many people. Sharing your life problems with others helps to find way to work out conflicts in a positive manner.
5. Self-care is very important in harnessing positive stress. Examples are self care is: exercise, healthy eating, developing hobbies and other interests.
6. Volunteering is often a good release, and helps give you a positive attitude and improves your mental health.

A good balance of stress, both negative and positive, will give you the resources to draw on when needed. Use good stress management techniques including taking needed actions recognizing the causes of distress and therefore reducing the negative symptoms of stress. Stress in and of itself is necessarily dangerous.
Stress when well managed can be a positive experience.

Types of Stress

There are many types of stress. Stress is a necessary part of your life. How stress affects you depends mostly on how you perceive stress-either negatively or positively.

Stress can be broken down into two main categories:

  1. Bad or Distress is what comes to mind first when discussing stress. Distress is unpleasant or disease producing stress. Chronic uncontrolled stress of a negative type may lead to a compromised immune system, illness or even death.
  2. Good stress or Eustress is defined as pleasant or curative stress. This is the type of stress that gives you a competitive edge. Stress provides focus for your life.
  • There are three main types of stress: 
    • Situational Stress  This is stress that in your immediate environment: example-sitting in a roller coaster car, clutching the harness, waiting for it to start
    • Work: you may have too many jobs to do at one time for example you must wait on customers but also need to re-stock the shelves. 
      • Key: It is happening Now.
  • Body Stress 
    • This is the type of stress that affects your physical health.
    • Too much alcohol ·
    • Illegal drugs
    • Too many fatty meals
    • Too much exercise ·
    • Not enough exercise 
      • Key: abuse or neglect
  • Mind Stress 
    • This stress may occur because you are perceiving life events negatively
    • Pessimism
    • Reliving past events 
      • Key: Negative stress

A few tips to help manage your stress:

Learn to say NO to taking on too many responsibilities. Your First responsibility is to yourself.

Learn Time Management Techniques Situational stress often results from the feeling of not having enough time. Use a daily planner and/or to-do lists.

Share Responsibilities-let other people help. You will build more trusting relationships and reduce your stress levels at the same time.

Practice relaxation techniques: dealing with evident symptoms of distress. Examples are: Rapid Chest breathing, tense muscles, and extreme fatigue.

Some good advice is to not concern yourself with what was, but with what is. Live in the present moment.

The two categories of distress and Eustress can certainly co-exist. Life doesn’t stop and let you deal with only one thing at a time. Life is continual motion with many things happening at the same time.

Likewise you may experience situational, body and mind stressors at the same time. Before you can effectively deal with stress you must be able to recognize the different types of stress, and when and where they take place. Once you have figured out exactly what is causing distress you will be able to take action to handle it.